Takulandilani ku zaka za zana la 21 pomwe zida zogwiridwa ndi manja zimalamulira mbali iliyonse ya moyo wathu, kuphatikizapo zachikondi! Kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi mapulogalamu azibwenzi ndi malo ochezera pa intaneti ayamba kukhala chizolowezi chazibwenzi za akulu. Mapulogalamu otchuka monga Tinder ndi OkCupid sakumananso ndi manyazi omwe akanakumana nawo zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazo. Tsopano aliyense akusambira kumanzere ndi kumanja kuyesa kupeza kulumikizana. Ndiye munthu amapambana bwanji pogwiritsa ntchito imodzi mwazinthuzi ngati ali ndi zovuta zochepa ……? Ndidapitilira ndikudziyesa kuti ndine wotchuka wakupha Jame Gumb, aka Buffalo Bill, pa Tinder kwa dzanja lodzaza masabata. Zomwe zidamuchitikirazo zinali zodabwitsa, zopatsa chidwi, komanso nthawi zina zopanikiza. Ndiye ndaphunzirapo chiyani ponamizira kuti ndiwodziwika kuti ndi wakupha wodziwika wofuna kupha "atsikana akulu"? Tonsefe tikufuna kulumikizana.

Momwe Zonse Zinayambira

Zonsezi zidayambika mu Okutobala usiku umodzi osagona. Ndimakonzekera mawonedwe ena pa Netflix pomwe ndinali ndi lingaliro lomwe ndimaganiza kuti ndizoseketsa: Bwanji ngati Buffalo Bill ali ndi mbiri ya Tinder? Lingalirolo linali losavuta. Pangani mbiri yabodza ya Tinder ya wakupha wongoyerekeza, ikani pa iHorror's Facebook tsamba ndipo ndikuyembekeza kuti ena apeza zoseketsa. Chifukwa inali 2:30 m'mawa ndidaganiziranso kusambira paliponse mpaka ndatha, ndimaganiza kuti palibe amene angafanane ndi creeper uyu. Low ndipo taonani, osadutsa mphindi ziwiri, ndimapeza machesi ndi uthenga. Ndinalankhula mwachidule ndi mtsikanayo ndisanatuluke, ndinamuyesa mosayerekezeka, ndikubwerera kumalo anga ogona osagona. Zinali zochuluka kwambiri. Kukula mwachangu kwakusinthana komanso kufunitsitsa kwa masewerawa kuti agwirizane ndi uthenga wanga womwe wandilowera kunandimasula pang'ono. Ndinatseka pulogalamuyi, ndikutumiza chithunzicho, ndikupitiliza ndi moyo.

Patatha milungu ingapo ndidawona ma likes, ma comment, ndi ma share angati omwe chithunzicho chidalandira. Izi zidandipatsa lingaliro loti ndimuwonenso Bill ndikuwona momwe amakhalira mdziko la pulogalamu ya zibwenzi. Zinali zodabwitsa kwambiri kuona kuti machesi ndi mauthenga ambiri zikumuyembekezera! Nthawi yomweyo ndinalumikizana ndi akonzi anga ndikuwapatsa lingalirolo. Ndani sangafune kukhala ndi ufulu wonena zoipa zonyansa kwa ena popanda zotsatirapo zochepa? Pokayikira kuganiza kuti mmodzi wa olemba awo akhoza kumangidwa kapena kuikidwa pa mndandanda wa mbiri, tinapeza malire. Malamulo amomwe Buffalo Bill ayenera kuchita ndikuyankhira machesi ake.

Malamulo

Malamulo omwe tidapeza anali anzeru kuposa malamulo. Mwachidule: Palibe zoopseza zakukuvulazani. Nditha kutchula zomwe Bill adachita mu kanema, koma osawatsogolera pamasewera. Osatukwana pokhapokha ngati takwiya. Izi makamaka zinali kuthandiza kuti zisangalale ndikukhalabe ndi mawonekedwe. Buffalo Bill samalumbirira mufilimuyi, chifukwa chake sindinkagwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo chokhacho pokhapokha galu wa Bill Precious atawopsezedwa.

Musakakamize wina kukambirana. Ndiosavuta kwambiri momwe ayenera kuvomerezera kuti agwirizane ndi ine. Akadapanda kunditumizira uthenga ndiye kuti ndikanawatumizira chiphalaphala cha Bill chokhala ngati "Ndimakonda khungu lako, kodi umanyowa?" Ngati sangayankhe ndiye kuti sindipitiliza kuyesa kulumikizana nawo. Izi nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa izi:

Patapita kanthawi ndidayamba kukambirana zomwe zingafe mwadzidzidzi. Kodi ndingaganize bwanji kuti ndingapeze zinthu zokwanira chidutswachi popanda mayankho okhalitsa? Ndidayamba kutumiza mawu kunyimbo ya The Greenskeeper's kupita ku Buffalo Bill, Lotion, kwa iwo omwe amalola kuti zokambirana zathu zife. Nthawi zina zidagwira, nthawi zambiri sizinkagwira ntchito. Apanso, ngati sanayankhe pambuyo pake ndinasiya kulumikizana nawo. Palibe chifukwa chowonjezerapo mlandu wakundizunza pazomwe zitha kukhala mndandanda wanga wa milandu.

Aliyense anali pa nthabwala

Izi siziyenera kukhala zodabwitsa. Buffalo Bill ndiwofanana kwambiri ndi Hannibal mwiniwakeyo ndi zomwe adalemba / zithunzi zake zakhazikika kwambiri pachikhalidwe chathu. Komabe, zinali zodabwitsa kuti anthu ambiri anali okonzeka kuyankhula ndi wakupha wakupha. Ngakhale atadziwa kuti sanali weniweni komanso kuti mwina panali wachiwerewere wina wachisoni mbali inayo akuyesera kupha nthawi nthawi yopuma. Zokambirana zambiri zidayamba ndi iwo kubwereza Bill, kutumiza maulalo ama makanema okhudzana ndi YouTube, kapena kutamanda omwe amakonda. Izi zidapangitsa zokambiranazo kukhala zosangalatsa kwambiri pomwe amapitiliza kudyetsa nthabwala panjira:

M'malire ochepa a malamulowo, ndinali womasuka kunena zomwe ndimafuna kuti Bill anene. Ndidalemba chinthu chowopsya ndikupanga nkhaniyo kukhala yolembedwa ndi wakuphayo wakuphayo. Malamulowo anali osavuta, osavuta kutsatira, ndipo amandithandiza kuti ndisamakhale pamavuto. Koma zowonadi, mavuto sanabwere kwenikweni chifukwa cha chinthu chimodzi.

Izi zidapitilira kwa milungu ingapo mpaka nthawi yaulere yomwe ndinali nayo idasowa. Zokambirana zambiri zomwe ndidakhala nazo zidatha kuchokera kugulu lililonse. Ndinaganiza zosiya kuyesako ndisanadziwononge ndikuyamba kutchula Bill pamisonkhano. Kufunsa mlendo kuti amagwiritsa ntchito mafuta otani kapena ngati "asungwana akuluakulu" zidandiyendera bwino. Pambuyo pa mwezi umodzi inali script, kutumiza mzere wotsegulira womwewo, kupanga pempho lomwelo, kuyembekezera kuti iwo achite moseketsa kuti adzaze chithunzi. Fananizani, menyani script, chithunzithunzi, bwerezani. Izi zinapitirira kwa mwezi wina. Zinakhala zovuta. Panthawiyi ndinaganiza zosiya khalidwe ndikufunsa amayi omwe ndinalankhula nawo za zomwe adakumana nazo ndi pulogalamuyi. Ananditsegukira kundiuza nkhani za momwe amuna ena adachitira pa mapulogalamuwa komanso momwe kuyankhula ndi Bill kunali kosangalatsa kosokoneza. Ena amanditumiziranso zithunzi zambirimbiri zomwe abambo amawapempha kuti agone nawo, patangopita mphindi zochepa. Izi sizosadabwitsa chifukwa amuna amatha kukhala okongola kutsogolo kwa munthu, koma onjezani khoma losadziwika kusakaniza ndipo timakhala olimba mtima pazopempha zathu. Ndikaganizira kwambiri zomwe amayiwa adakumana nazo pamapulogalamuwa, m'pamenenso ndidazindikira kuti sindine wabwinoko kuposa amuna awa omwe amafunsa "zopukutira pamapazi." Chifukwa chake ndikutenga chitsanzo cha azimayiwa ndikufotokozera momwe zinandichitikira monga Bill adamvera.

Mukamayankhula ndi wina kudzera muukadaulo wamtundu uliwonse, pali chinsinsi. Chifukwa sitili pamasom'pamaso, titha kunena chilichonse. Titha kusankha mawu athu tisanatumize, titha kusiya kukhudzana ndikuletsa wina, ndipo titha kupanga umunthu wosiyanasiyana. Titha kugwiritsa ntchito izi ngati njira yokwaniritsira zolinga zathu ndi anthu ena. Kaya zolingazo ndizabwino, zoyipa, kapena kuseka. Ndiye ndimatani kuti ndizidziyesa ngati wakuphayo wakupha pa pulogalamu ya zibwenzi? Kodi zinali choncho kuti ndikhoza kunena zinthu zonyansa kwa anthu popanda zovuta? Ngakhale izi zitayamba chifukwa chotopetsa, ndidasankhabe kukhala Buffalo Bill. Zachidziwikire, ine ndi azimayi omwe ndidayankhula nawo anali pa nthabwala, koma zifukwa zomwe zidandichititsa kuchita izi zidali zadyera. Cholinga chake chinali kupeza mayankho, kuzilemba, kenako kuzilemba zonse kuti mupeze zina zambiri patsamba lino. Kugwiritsa ntchito ukadaulo kugwiritsa ntchito anthu ena pacholinga chimodzi. Kodi sizomwe anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamuwa amafunsira zolaula?

Nditalankhula ndi mnzanga wolemba iHorror a Timothy Rawles za chidutswa chomwe adati "Kugwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu ya chibwenzi ndizovuta." Akunena zowona. Khoma la cyber ili lomwe limakhalapo mukamagwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu kukumana ndi anthu silimunthu. Zinthu zikakhala zopanda umunthu, zotsatira zake sizikhala zochepa. Wina sakusangalala ndi zomwe tanena? Timakhala osayerekezeka ndikuyesa yotsatira. Nditasiya khalidwe langa ndikuyankhula ndi mafani a Bill ndidawadziwa pang'ono. Awa anali akazi anzeru komanso oseketsa kwambiri. Onse ali ndi ntchito, zolinga, ndi chiyembekezo. Ndikadapanda kukhala wosakhazikika, sindikadawadziwa. Akadakhala chidutswa china kwa ine chofikira m'malo mwa munthu. Sindimadziona ngati munthu wovuta ndipo nditha kugwiritsa ntchito zambiri za positiyi kuyiteteza. Koma zomwe ndidachita ndizobvuta. Ndiye ndaphunzirapo chiyani ponamizira Buffalo Bill pa Tinder?

Mwachidule, ndidaphunzira kuti sindikufuna kukhala ngati Bill Buffalo pa Tinder kapena kwina kulikonse. Osachepera ndi cholinga cholemba nkhani. Zomwe zidachitikazo zinali zosangalatsa pomwe zidakhalapo, koma pamapeto pake sichinali ine. Sindinakonde kumverera kogwiritsa ntchito anthu ena mpaka pano. Ndinalumikizana ndi anthu awa chifukwa chokonda kanema wowopsa, womwe ndimakonda kwambiri kuyambira ndili mwana. Koma ndi zomwe tsambali limalumikizana ndi ma hounds anzanu. Sindikufunikira kugwiritsa ntchito anthu kuti ndilumikizane kapena kuti ndikwaniritse zolinga zanga zosangalatsa ena. Chifukwa chake, akauntiyo sichichotsedwa, koma sindipitiliza kuisunga. Zikhala kwa anthu kuti awone. Amatha kuseka ndikusinthana mbali iliyonse, koma siyankha. Itha kupitilirabe nthabwala osatinso zina. Za ine ndikudziyesa kuti ndine munthu wina pa intaneti? Ndikusambira kumanzere.