Ndizovuta kukhulupirira kuti kutha kwa Kunyada Mwezi ali pa ife. Mosakayikira, owerenga athu ena akupuma kwinaku akuwerenga izi ngati angawerenge izi.

Kwa mwezi watha, komabe, ndachita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ndithandizire kufotokoza bwino zodabwitsazi komanso gulu la LGBTQ ndikukondwerera kutengapo gawo kwathu mdera lathu.

Kunena kuti ndaphunzira zambiri ndikukumana ndi ena mwa anthu aluso kwambiri, ogwira ntchito molimbika pantchito zowopsa zomwe zakhala zikuchitika pazinthu izi zitha kukhala zosakwanira zaka khumi, ndipo ndimaganiza kuti chikondwererocho chitha , ingakhale nthawi yabwino yosinkhasinkha zina mwa zomwe taphunzira.

Phunziro # 1 Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuli bwino ndipo kuli mdera loopsa ...

Ndidapumira ndikumenya pa nkhani yomwe idalengeza kuti Mwezi Wodzikuza Wamkulu wa iHorror. Ndidapumira pomwe ndidaziyika patsamba lathu la Facebook.

Ndidali nditangoyamba kupuma pang'ono nditapereka ndemanga zoyambirira ndipo ndimaganiza, "Mwina anthu adzakhala ozizira ndi izi…" vitriol, homophobia, transphobia, ndi zina zambiri zisanayambike.

Kwa maola 12 tsiku loyamba, ndinayang'anitsitsa ndemanga pa nkhaniyi, kuchotsa nkhanza, ndikuyang'anitsitsa "zokambirana" ngati wina angawatchule choncho. Tsiku lonse limenelo linali nkhondo yamkati pakati pakufuna kupitiliza mpaka kugonjetsedwa.

Zinandikumbutsa, komabe, komwe mbewu zokondwerera Mwezi Wodzitama zidabzalidwa koyamba.

Zaka zingapo zapitazo, ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinapita kumsonkhano waukulu kwambiri wakumwera chakumadzulo ndikugwira ntchito yanga monga mtolankhani wa iHorror. Tikutuluka utsi kunja, munthu wina woyimirira pafupi nafe mwadzidzidzi adatembenuka nati, "Ameneyo ndi amuna kapena akazi?"

Poyamba sindinadziwe kuti amalankhula ndi ndani kapena za ndani koma ndinamuyang'ana kaye kenako ndikutembenuka kuti ndiwone komwe amayang'ana. Panali mkulu mu kukoka kwathunthu kwa Vamp, ndipo anali akugwedeza!

Ndinabwerera kwa mnyamatayo ndikunena kuti anali munthu. Adapukusa mutu ndipo sindidzaiwala zomwe adanenanso.

"Pafupifupi sindinabwere chaka chino chifukwa zipolowezi zimangokhala paliponse," ndipo adatembenuka ndikuchokapo ndisanayankhe.

Tsopano, dziwani, panali anthu ambiri ovala zovala zonse, ndipo ochepa aiwo anali azimayi ovala mozungulira ndikuyika mipando yawo pa Freddy Kreuger, Michael Myers, ndi anthu ena onse owopsa, koma Mnyamatayo adalowetsa munthu m'modzi chifukwa adachita zonyansa.

Mosakayikira, ananena izi chifukwa sanazindikire kuti ine ndi Bill ndife banja. Tidauzidwa kale kuti "sitimapereka vibe iyi" ngakhale zili choncho.

Ndinalephera kuthana ndi tsankho tsiku lomwelo, koma ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito kuyambira nthawi imeneyo, ndipo ngakhale ndakhala ndikuwerenga ndemanga zankhanza bwanji mu Mwezi Wodzitamandirawu, ngakhale nditalandira mauthenga achinyengo otani, ndidadziwa kuti nthawi ino ndikhoza ayi ndipo samakhala chete.

Pomwe Mwezi Wonyada Wopitilira muyeso, panali ndemanga zochepa ndi zochepa. Sindikudziwa ngati pamapeto pake adazindikira kuti sizingalepheretse nkhani kubwera kapena ngati adangotaya njira zofunsa kuti "Mwezi Wodzikuza Wowongoka" uti uchitike.

Ineyo pandekha ndimakonda kuganiza kuti m'modzi kapena awiri mwa iwo atha kukhala nthawi yowerenga nkhanizi ndipo zidawakhudza. (Mnyamata amatha kulota, sichoncho iye?)

Ngati ndalimbikitsa chidwi m'malingaliro a munthu m'modzi, ndiye kuti ndiona kuti ntchitoyi ndiyopambana. Ndakhala ndikudandaula kuti ndimakhala nthawi yayitali ndikudandaula kuti kangati munthu angalembe kuti "Sindikusamala" pazambiri asanazindikire kuti amasamala, ndi osasangalala ndi mutuwo, ndipo mwina ndi nthawi yolingalira chifukwa chake.

Mulimonsemo, ndikufuna nditenge kanthawi kuti anthu onse afotokoze chidani chawo kuti tidzabweranso chaka chamawa pamndandanda wina wa Mwezi Wodzikuza, ndipo chaka chilichonse pambuyo pake mpaka Zikondwerero za Kunyada sizifunikanso.

Phunziro # 2 Pali mafani ambiri owopsa a LGBTQ kunjaku omwe amakonda kwambiri zomwe timachita.

Ngakhale panali chidani chambiri choti ndingayende, ndiyenera kunena kuti panali anthu owopsa omwe adawonetsa kuthandizira kwawo ndikuyamikira kwawo Mwezi Wodzitukumula.

Ambiri adandilembera kuti andidziwitse kuti mosasamala kanthu za zomwe wina aliyense wanena, anali okondwa kwambiri kuwerenga zolemba za mdera lawo ndikudziwa kuti iHorror inali tsamba lotseguka komanso lovomerezeka.

Ndidawerenga ndemanga zingapo pamitu yosonyeza kudabwitsidwa komwe olemba, owongolera, olemba, ndi ena a LGBTQ adapanga ena amakanema awo owopsa ndikulemba ena mwa mabuku omwe amawakonda omwe pamapeto pake anali pamtima pa cholinga cha Mwezi Wodzikuza Kwambiri. chiyambi.

Zinandibweretsera kumwetulira pamene ndimayamba kuzindikira mayina a anthu omwe amagawana kapena kuyankha nkhanizi mobwerezabwereza. Sindingathe kulemba mayina awo pano, koma dziwani kuti ndakuwonani, ndipo chikondwererochi chidachita bwino chifukwa za inu.

PHUNZIRO # 3 Tidakali ndi ulendo wautali kuti tichite nawo kampeni yokonzekereratu mtundu wanyimbo…

Zovuta ndizo, ngakhale mafani owopsa kwambiri omwe awonapo kanema aliyense womasulidwa chaka chatha atha kutchula mwina anthu ochepa omwe sanali amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso owongoka.

M'malo mwake, ndikuganiza ambiri angakhale ovuta kutchula atatu.

Mawu anga pomwe ndimalemba izi anali: Kuphatikiza. Kuwonekera. Kuyimira. Kufanana.

Zinthu zinayi izi zikutanthauza dziko kwa gulu la LGBTQ ngakhale tikulankhula za zisankho zaboma kapena zosangalatsa zomwe timakonda.

Chimodzi mwazomwe zimawopseza ufulu wathu monga gulu la anthu ndikukana kukhalapo kwathu.

Ngati sitikuwoneka, nanga bwanji wina aliyense ayenera kusamalira ngati zosowa zathu zikukwaniritsidwa? Ngati sitingamveke, nanga bwanji wina aliyense ayenera kusamala madandaulo athu?

Ndipo inde, izi zimaphatikizapo mtundu wowopsa.

Zowopsa zili ndi omvera ambiri, ndipo kuwonetsa ojambulidwa a LGBTQ m'mafilimu omwe timakonda ndikofunikira. Zachidziwikire, zitha kukhala zovuta kuti ena mwa omvera azitenga poyamba, koma tikulankhula za gulu la anthu omwe azikhala pansi ndikuwonerera kuzunzidwa, kuphedwa, komanso nkhanza zina zambiri mosangalala.

Zachidziwikire, china chake chosalakwa ngati munthu yemwe amakonda mwamuna kapena mkazi wina posintha kuti akhale mwamuna sichowopseza kuti zinthuzo, ndipo zowonadi zisintha.

Ngati Jordan Peele atatiphunzitsa chilichonse ndi Tulukani Ndikuti pamakhala msika wa ochepera pamtunduwu, ndipo ndikupempha opanga ma studio ndi mitu ya studio kuti aganizire kuti popanga zisankho mtsogolo monganso ndikupempha olemba nawo masewerawa kuti apitilize kuphatikiza otchulidwa m'malemba anu.

Phunziro # 4… ndipo akuphatikizanso anthu amtundu wa LGBTQ…

Pomwe ndimakhala ndikufufuza za Mwezi Wodzikuza Kwambiri, chinthu chimodzi chidawoneka bwino kwambiri koyambirira: Ngati anthu ovuta kupeza ndi ovuta kupeza mumtunduwo, ndiye kuti anthu amtundu wankhanza ali pafupi ndi zosatheka.

Ndidatsimikiza mtima kupeza opanga oopsa omwe anali akuda komanso Latino ndi aku Asia.

Mowona mtima ndidayamba kuda nkhawa pang'ono pomwe ndidazindikira kuti zochepa zomwe zikuyimira zilipo. Ndinayamba kuyang'ana m'mabuku azamauthenga ndi magulu opanga mafilimu pa Facebook ndikuyesera kuti ndipeze opanga ma LGBTQ, olemba, olemba nawo ma screen omwe sanali oyera ndipo adangotuluka ndi ochepa okha.

Ngakhale ndikungoganiza pazifukwa zake, ndayamba kukhulupirira kuti ndichifukwa akuwona kuti mtunduwo ulibe malo kwa iwo mwina chifukwa cha mtundu wawo kapena kudandaula kwawo, ndipo izi ziyenera kungosintha.

Mosasamala kanthu zamalingaliro atsankho omwe timawona ndikumva tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi 2018 ndipo palibe malo okondera amitundu padziko lapansi. Zoopsa nthawi zonse zimakhala za "enawo," ndipo ndi nthawi yoti tilandire tanthauzo lonse la tanthauzo la mtunduwo.

Phunziro # 5… ndikuzindikira kuti chiwonetsero cha LGBTQ chitha kuphatikiza omwe ali kunja kwa L & G.

Izi ndizomwe timapitilizabe kulimbana nazo mdera lathu. Kusokoneza, transphobia, komanso kuthamangitsidwa mochenjera kwa anthu omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena omwe amadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, hetero- and homo-flexible, ndi ena. pazifukwa zonse zomwe ndidatchula pazokambirana zamtunduwu pamwambapa.

Pamenepo, ndidanena.

Phunziro # 6 Kuphatikiza sikungachitike nthawi imodzi.

Zomwe ndimafuna kuganiza kuti mwadzidzidzi aliyense adzakhala ndi mphindi ya "a-ha" yotsatiridwa ndi mayankho oti "tiyenera-kupeza-izi", ndikudziwa kuti sichoncho.

Sindikulimbikitsa kukakamiza zilembo za LGBTQ pazolemba zonse ndi nkhani iliyonse. Kuchita izi sikungapindulitse chilichonse makamaka ngati anthuwo ayamba kumva ngati kuti ali ndi nsapato mufilimu kuti akwaniritse gawo.

Chifukwa chake, momwe ndimavutikira kutero, ine ndi gulu lonse la LGBTQ tiyenera kukhala oleza mtima chifukwa mtundu womwe timakonda umafika mpaka pano.

Komabe, sitiyenera kunyalanyaza kuleza mtima kwathu. Tiyenera kulimbikitsa zokambirana pamitu yophatikizira ndikuyimira, osati mwamantha okha komanso padziko lonse lapansi zomwe zimanditsogolera ku phunziro lomaliza lomwe ndidaphunzira.

Phunziro # 7 Munthu m'modzi sangathe kusintha dziko lapansi, koma atha kupereka mawu awo kwa ena omwe akumenyera chifukwa chomwecho m'mabwalo ena.

Sindinalembe mndandanda wazinthu izi kuti ndisinthe maufulu a LGBTQ padziko lapansi. Alibe mphamvu yochitira zonsezi paokha.

Nditha, komabe, kuthandizira kulimbikitsa kusintha pamakanema amtundu wina komanso zopeka monga a Dan Reynolds, mtsogoleri wakumaso kwa gulu Imagine Dragons, akugwira ntchito kuti asinthe malingaliro a Mormon pakuphatikizika kwa LGBTQ poyankha kuzipweteketsa kwadzidzidzi kwa achinyamata ku Utah monga Dan Savage yemwe adayambitsa ntchito ya "It It Get Better" monga njira yolankhulira achinyamata a LGBTQ omwe amadzimva kuti kudzipha ndiyo njira yokhayo yothetsera kuzunzidwa ndi makolo omwe amalekerera machitidwe apakatikati monga chithandizo chothandizira kutembenuka.

Ndipo palinso Laverne Cox, wochita sewero wakuda komanso womenyera ufulu yemwe wagwiritsa ntchito kuyang'ana kwake ndi nsanja kuthana ndi ziwopsezo zakupha za azimayi anzake ogonana.

Nanga bwanji a George Takei, omwe amagwiritsa ntchito nsanja yake ngati msirikali wakale mwa akatswiri odziwika bwino a sci-fi m'mbiri kuyankhula za ufulu wa anthu a LGBTQ kulikonse?

Pali Martina Navratilova yemwe adakana kukhalabe mu chipinda ndikumakhala wabodza komanso yemwe adakhala moyo wake wonse akumenya nkhondo kuti apatse othamanga ena padziko lonse lapansi thandizo lomwe angafunike pamoyo wawo ndikukhala onyada.

Munamvapo za Peter Tatchell? Wakhala akuchita kampeni yolandila ufulu wofanana pagulu la LGBTQ kuyambira mzaka za m'ma 1960 ndipo akugwira ntchito mwakhama ndi maziko padziko lonse lapansi, makamaka m'maiko omwe kukhala omvera kumatha kubweretsa kundende komanso kuphedwa.

Ndamva kulumikizana ndi anthu onsewa pomwe ndalemba zolemba za Kunyada mwezi uno momwe ndimamvera kulumikizana ndi iwo omwe adatitsogolera, ndikutseka njira ndi magazi awo, thukuta lawo, ndi misozi yambiri.

Chifukwa chake, ayi… mwina sindingasinthe dziko lonse lapansi ndi malingaliro awo pagulu la LGBTQ pongolemba zolemba zakuphatikizidwa mgulu lowopsya.

Komabe, ndikawonjezera mawu anga pagulu la awa ndi enanso osawerengeka, ambiri omwe ali ndi mayina omwe simudzawamva, omwe akugwira ntchito molimbika kuti aphatikizidwe, kuwonekera, kuyimilira, ndi kufanana, ndikukuwuzani ndikumva kuti kusintha kukuchitika .

Ndipo kotero, mpaka nthawi yotsatira kumbukirani: Nyadirani kuti ndinu ndani. Thandizani opanga mafilimu a LGBTQ, olemba, olemba zenera, opanga, ndi ena onse pamtunduwu, ndipo gwiritsani ntchito mawu anu tsiku lililonse kuti zokambirana, komanso gulu lathu likhale losangalala.