Nthawi zonse ndikakhala pansi kuti ndiwerenge buku Aaron Dries, ndimayesetsa kuti ndikonzekere mwanzeru zomwe ndimachita ndikuganiza wolemba akhoza kundisungira. Izo sizinagwire ntchito konse. Osati kamodzi. Osati ngakhale pang'ono. Dries ndi mlembi yemwe amazemba ndikayembekezera kuti azag. Amayang'ana pamwamba pa zoyipa / zowopsa zodziwikiratu, osazigwiritsa ntchito ngati zoseketsa, koma amangolowetsa owerenga m'mutu mumkhalidwe wosayembekezereka womwe ndi woyipa kwambiri. Iye ndi katswiri wofotokozera nkhani, ndi Dulani Kuti Musamale: Kutolere Zopweteka Zing'onozing'ono, mndandanda wake watsopano wa nkhani zazifupi ndizosiyana.

Mwanjira ina, ndi mutu wangwiro. Nkhani iliyonse imapangidwa mwaluso; nkhani iliyonse imadula mozama. Dries kawirikawiri samalemba nkhani zauzimu. Zowopsa zake zimachokera ndikukhala m'dziko lenileni. Novela yake Mitu Yonyansa ndizopadera, ndipo apa amaviika chala chake mwa apo ndi apo, nthawi zambiri amaphatikiza zosangalatsa zauzimu ndi kuzizira kwa thupi komwe kumakhala kokakamiza komanso kusokoneza nthawi imodzi.

Ngakhale sindimachita izi kawirikawiri ndi zosonkhanitsa, ndimaona kufunikira kuti ndifotokoze / kuwunikanso nkhani iliyonse ya wolemba pano. Zimamveka ngati njira yokhayo yochitira ntchitoyo mwachilungamo ndikukupatsani lingaliro la zomwe mungapeze mkati mwake.

Dulani Kusamalira zimayamba ndi Malingaliro a kampani Damage, Inc. Nkhani yofotokoza za mtsikana wina yemwe amagwira ntchito ngati chidole chachisoni. Kaylee amathera masiku ake atavala zovala ndi mawigi kuti azicheza ndi makasitomala omwe ataya kwambiri. Amakhala chinthu chachisoni chawo, amatsegula mabala awo ochiritsidwa kwambiri, ndikuwalola kunena zomwe sananene kuti atseke. Ntchitoyo imamugwetsa misozi. Wofuna chithandizo aliyense amatsegula zipsera zake, koma satha kudzipereka yekha zomwe amapereka mwachangu komanso motopetsa kwa ena.

Komabe, amakwanitsa kumamatira ku dongosolo la chithandizocho, titero kunena kwake, kufikira atakumana ndi banja lolemera lomwe lingamufune mopambanitsa. Dries amafika pamtima wachisoni, ndikumayika zoopsa zotayika m'njira yogwira komanso yowopsa, ndikusiya mathero osamveka bwino kuti afotokozere mutu wake. Zilonda zina sizimachira; zina siziyenera kutero. Zaka zingapo zowawa pambuyo povulazidwa koyamba monga chikumbutso ndi phunziro lomwe tapulumuka.

“Kudula Kusamalira” ndi nkhani yomwe ingangoganiziridwa ngati fanizo lochititsa mantha, nkhani yosavuta yokhala ndi mfundo za choonadi pakati pake. Mnyamata akuthamangira m'mawa atakumana ndi bambo wachikulire akupempha chenji. Amapereka, ndikumwetulira pamene akuthamanga. Pangodya yotsatira, akukumana ndi mayi wina atakulungidwa m’bulangete wopanda malaya. Ngakhale kuti nyengo yozizira imakhala yozizira, amasiya zake. Ali ndi nyumba yoti apiteko. Pamapeto pake adzakhala ofunda ndipo pamakhala kuwala kwina komwe amamva podzipereka. Dries akuwoneka kuti akufunsa kuti "Kodi ndi bwino kudzimvera chisoni pothandiza ena? Kodi ndi liti pamene timadutsa malire kuchoka ku kudzikonda kupita ku chinthu chosafunika kwenikweni?” Yankho, ndithudi, likuzizira m'manja mwa wolemba amene amapanga mapeto adzuwa mwankhanza.

Ndizovuta kudziwa choti upange "Wopanga Tallow, Wopanga Tallow." Ikangoiwerenga koyamba, imadumphira pamasamba ngati nkhani yowopsa ya thupi lokwawa. Kuwerenga kachiwiri, komabe, kumakufikitsani mozama. Apanso, tikukumana ndi chisoni pamene mtsikana wina akuyesera kuti agwirizane ndi kupachika kwa abambo ake atapezeka kuti anapha amuna atatu. Pano, komabe, amagonja kwathunthu kuchisoni chimenecho, amalola kuti chisinthidwe nacho. Kwa ine, inali nkhani yachiwiri yotembenuza m'mimba m'gululi. Luso la mlembi lofotokozera likuwonetsedwa pano. Ngati muli ndi malamulo ofooka, nditha kungopereka malingaliro okonzekera kukwera koyipa kwambiri kwa moyo wanu.

“Nona Savina”… M’tsogolo muno pamene dziko ladzala ndi utsi wapoizoni, ndipo palibe amene wawonapo nyenyezi kwa zaka zambiri kuposa mmene iwo angaŵerengere, banja lirinjika zinthu zambiri kukachezera matriarch awo kunyumba yopumula kumene “akukhala.” Ndizo zonse zomwe ndingakuuzeni mwanzeru za nkhaniyi. Ndibwino kuti mudziwe zomwe zimachitika nokha. Dries adakhala zaka zambiri akugwira ntchito m'nyumba zosungira anthu okalamba, ndipo izi zikuwoneka kuti zikutengera zoopsa zenizeni, zomvetsa chisoni za ukalamba ndi okalamba.

Ndili mwana, agogo anga aamuna adakhala m'nyumba yosungirako okalamba, ndikukhulupirira, zaka zisanu ndi zitatu. Chaka choyamba chitatha, sanakumbukire chilichonse. Ndikayang’ana m’mbuyo, ndimazindikira mmene maulendo athu a mlungu ndi mlungu ku malo osungira okalamba anali osangalatsa. Tinkakhala pafupi ndi bedi lake, ndipo nthaŵi zambiri timalankhula za iye m’malo molankhula naye ngati kuti kukambirana mosangalala pamaso pake sikunagwirizane ndi mmene zinthu zinalili pa moyo wake. Dzina lokumbukiridwa, kuvomereza kukhalapo kwathu kunali mtengo umene ife mwadyera tinayembekezera kuti iye alipire. Ndinali mwana yemwe anali ndi nkhawa zosazindikirika komanso kupsinjika maganizo. Sindingayembekezere kudziwa bwino lomwe, koma ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo, zokumbukira zimakhala zowawa. Nkhaniyi inafotokoza zonsezi, ikuchititsa manthawo ndi kudziimba mlandu.

“Mabaluni Aang’ono” imayang'ana kuthekera kwa ubwana, mapangidwe aumwini, ndi momwe angatayike mosavuta, nkhani yovuta yomwe imanenedwa mochititsa mantha pachimake. Ndizo zonse zomwe ine ndikufuna kunena za izo pakali pano.

Ndikufuna kulankhula za "Ovomerezedwa." Ndikufuna kufufuza zigawo zake m'njira yomwe imapatsa kulemera kwake koyenera. Sindikudziwa momwe ndingachitire popanda kuwononga chinthu chonsecho. Ingondidalirani, simudzakhumudwitsidwa.

In “Takalamba Kwambiri Kuti Ndipeze Ice Cream,” mlembiyo amafufuza mozama mmene banja likuthawira komanso zimene zimachitikira ana m’nyumbamo. Kukula mofulumira kwambiri, kusenza mathayo kupyola msinkhu wawo, ndipo choipitsitsa kuposa zonse, kuphonya ufulu wa kungokhala ana, kusangalala ndi zosangalatsa zosavuta zomwe moyo umapereka chisanakhale cholemetsa chauchikulire chisanagwe pa mapewa awo. Ndizomvetsa chisoni, zachisoni, ndipo inde, zowopsa monga gehena.

"Chikondi Pakati pa Akangaude Ofiira." Chabwino, ife tiri pano. Nkhani yomwe inandisweka kwambiri moti ndinatumiza message kwa Dries nditawerenga kumudziwitsa kuti wandiphwanya. Kuvomerezedwa kwa gulu la anthu osowa pokhala, lonse, kwakhala bwino kwambiri kuposa kale, ngakhale kuti tidakali ndi njira yayitali yoti tipite. Nkhaniyi inachitika panthawi yomwe inali yoipa kwambiri. Ndipotu, moyo wa munthu ukasokonekera atatuluka, amachitapo kanthu pofuna “kudzipulumutsa” ku ukaidi wake kuti moyo wake upitedi ku gehena.

Nkhaniyi ndi yolemetsa chifukwa opanga malamulo ku US akuyesera kuti akhazikitse malamulo odziwikitsa mamembala a gulu la LBGTQ+ kukhala "osaloledwa" m'njira yosasinthika. Kuchotsa umunthu wathu ndi ufulu wathu sikungowonjezera kutipangitsa kukhala pachiwopsezo kwa ife eni ndi ena. Zowopsya pano zikukhala zolimba mu zenizeni zathu monga mbiri yakale yomwe ingabwereze mosavuta. Ndinachoka pa nkhaniyi yothyoledwa ndi matanthauzo ake ndipo ndatsimikiza kwambiri kuposa kale lonse kulemekeza iwo amene anabwera patsogolo pathu, kumenyana ndi kufa kuti atipezere ufulu umene tili nawo. Ndikungoyembekezera kuti nditha kudzaza nsapato zawo munthawi yanga mwanjira ina yomwe ingawapangitse kunyada.

Ndipo potsiriza, pali "Ngongole Yachithunzi." Nkhaniyi ikuwoneka ngati yophatikiza zonse zomwe zidabwera patsogolo pake m'gululi. Mantha onsewa ndi kukayikakayika zimalumikizana kukhala nthawi imodzi, pomwe zovuta za chisankho chimodzi zimatha kusintha moyo wonse. Nanette akukhala movutikira m'zaka zake zachinyamata. Mwamuna wake wadwala matenda ovutika maganizo ndipo amakhala m’nyumba yosungirako okalamba. Banja la mwana wake wamkazi likukula. Akuyembekezera mwachidwi mdzukulu wake woyamba. Kenako, tsiku lina, amauza mtsikana wina kuti asadziphe. Ndiwo kukoma mtima kwakukulu kopatsa moyo. Kapena kodi?

Dries akuwoneka kuti akuloza pa owerenga ake, kutifunsa zomwe tikanachita ndipo tikadakhala ndi mwayi, kodi tingachitenso? Zinthu zina, pamapeto pake, sizingabwezedwe. Zinthu zina, ngakhale zachifundo kwambiri, zimangotengera kwa ife. Ndipo tenga, tenga, tenga; Wolemba amatipatsa nkhani yolembedwa bwino, yowopsa, yomwe imakhala m'malo otuwa amoyo wathu.

Zonse, monga zosonkhanitsira zabwino zilizonse, Dulani Kusamalira ndi ulendo wolowa ndi kutuluka m'malingaliro a wolemba. Dries amatsimikizira ndi ntchito kuti luso lake lofotokoza nkhani silimangotengera mawonekedwe aatali. Akhoza, ndipo apangitsa khungu lanu kukwawa ngakhale munkhani zazifupi. Ngati zowopsa zolembedwa bwino ndizomwe mukulakalaka, muyenera kuwerenga mndandanda wabwino kwambiriwu.

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